2014: The Good Parts Version


A couple of years ago I gave up resolutions in favor of plans. Last year, I gave up plans because the Universe kept hitting me with a bus over and over again, and I downgraded to “Just get through this day without screaming.” It worked pretty well; 2013 was better than 2012, although that’s like saying, “Being poked in the eye with a sharp stick is better than being stabbed in the heart with a dull spoon.” It was much better, but it was not great. HOWEVER, I have decided that I’m carrying all the good times from 2013 into 2014 with me and leaving the bad stuff behind, so 2014 is going to be FABULOUS. And then I realized that I’d made the same decision before, only about writing. That is, while I was struggling with writing the boring parts of a novel, parts I felt I had to write, I had this epiphany that if I just wrote the good parts, the whole book would be good. It worked, too. So 2014 is going to be my Good Parts year. I’m taking all the stuff I love–my friends, my family, my house, my dogs, writing, gardening, cooking, baking, crochet–and leaving behind all the things that made 2013 dark–money worries (just keep working and it’ll all work out), health worries (Obamacare, thank you, Obama), overwork (don’t try to cram forty hours of work into a twenty-four hour day), guilt (if it happened more than a week ago, I’m letting it go), and stress (much of which I create myself). From now on, my life is the Good Parts Version, or at least the part of it I control will be. If the Universe backs up the bus again, I’ll be ready.

So what’s in your Good Parts Plan for 2014? Don’t say “lose weight.” Say stuff you’ll have fun doing. Life is depressing enough without adding to its baggage. Plan for happiness, that’s what I say.

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59 Comments to '2014: The Good Parts Version'

On January 1, 2014 at 7:33 am JaneB said...

Playing with photography more – I need to simplify my workflow so I’m not overwhelmed with unsorted images that I don’t do anything with for years. Also want to play with writing fiction. Finish making my new home, and start playing with the garden. Make more friends locally. And do more exploring.

Play (and do) more and fret less, basically.

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On January 1, 2014 at 8:39 am Judy, Judy, Judy said...

I’ve decided to adopt something from an Erin McCarthy novel as my 2014 resolution –
in 2014 I resolve to make fun my bitch! Which will definitely involve lots of time spent with my children and grandchildren. Starting today. Yay!
Happy New Year Jenny. I hope 2014 is a bus-free year for you!

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On January 1, 2014 at 10:10 am Lola said...

My 2014 Good Parts Plan is to find joy again. Menopause drained most of it out of me. And since my motto for this year is You Are What You Do my joy is going to come from what I actively do to get it. So this year I want to find joy in running. There’s 5k race in my hometown this year in September that I will be signing up for later. I want to be joyful with my progress of getting to that race.

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On January 1, 2014 at 11:04 am JulieB/Julie Spahn said...

Run like the wind Lola!

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On January 1, 2014 at 6:59 pm Christine Ashworth said...

Woo Lola! I hear you on menopause draining your joy. Enjoy the running – I wish I could do it but I just can’t anymore, the knees won’t let me. So yes – enjoy!

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On January 2, 2014 at 8:19 am Lola said...

Thanks ladies. You know, that’s only 3.1 miles. I could walk if I needed to. I’d like to run at least half of that. So I got 7 and a half months to get there. I think I can do it. :)

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On January 1, 2014 at 10:10 am Rosa said...

I always make very small resolutions. Last year it was to wash my face every day. This year, I am going to get some sort of job before this unstructured SAHM-ness melts my brain into a blob.

In my head this seems like a giant goal but in the past it was just a thing I did: Hey, I’m bored at work. I’d like a different job. I’ma go get a job. Hey, now I have a new job! So I’m sure I can do that again.

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On January 1, 2014 at 11:03 am JulieB/Julie Spahn said...

I like it – best wishes!

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On January 1, 2014 at 11:03 am JulieB/Julie Spahn said...

I am back at a site Lani recommended (on Refab, maybe?), Duolingo. I am going to learn German. My goal is to get 25 points a day – adjustable more or less if need be (kind of like the 100 words goal and Rosa’s wash your face – a good simple habit.) Any points beyond the minimum will be extra frosting.
I got a new job at the beginning of the year – full time as an instructional assistant. Even though I am at school longer I have No Lesson Plans And No Grading. Once I stopped falling asleep as soon as I got home, I found that I have had more time, and I started Reading For Fun again! That is something I am bringing with me to the new year and never letting go of again.
Thank you for this perspective, because I have been struggling with how to frame my last resolution. I always fail at resolutions, so I have been trying to figure out how to do this and not fail. I have been really struggling with weight, but I have had a hard time figuring out a plan, or a goal, or a diet, or a resolution, and I didn’t want to tie my next wish to this, although they could be related – but probably won’t. I want to swim more often. But swimming is one exercise that doesn’t really contribute to weight loss, and I don’t want to set myself up to be discouraged. So, I’m not going to focus on my weight at all.
So here it is: I am a traveller, so I am learning German. I am a reader, so I read books. I am a swimmer. Life is better when I swim. Therefore, I am going to take a swim class.

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On January 1, 2014 at 11:29 am JaneB said...

I think you’re absolutely right to focus on doing exercise you love – and I bet it does help your weight, in fact. I’ve found that stopping overeating, and walking every day (because walking is my favourite form of exercise – and I just mean normal walking, nothing sweaty) has allowed me to lose nearly all my excess weight over the past two years. I’m convinced you need to find ways of eating and exercising that you enjoy, and that you can see yourself happily doing for ever, rather than battling with diets and big goals. Anyway, it’s working for me. Hope your plan works for you.

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On January 1, 2014 at 12:27 pm JulieB/Julie Spahn said...

Thank you JaneB – excellent thoughts! Yes, I will make changes, but I’m not going to weigh it down with the “Big R” tag. And, I love walking too. It is easier for me and will be once March moves past. I know that being mentally exhausted by the new job contributed to my overeating at the end of the day as well. So I’ve been focussing on creating “Hygge” at home in ways that don’t necessarily involve the taste buds. ;) More candles!

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On January 2, 2014 at 12:23 am Jessie said...

Duolingo is great. Be sure you read the discussions associated with the lessons before you start. It contains problems students have with understand or- more likely – misunderstanding. Or nuances that are not particularly clear until you lose a heart. Remember Duo is basically a computer with programmers correcting things as we, the students, go insane about details. Although German may not need as much tweaking as the French lessons have. Even though I find myself shrieking at my laptop “we say reindeer in English not reindeers” and “furniture is like sheep, same word singular and plural”, I am so much better at French then I ever thought I would be.

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On January 2, 2014 at 8:16 am JulieB/Julie Spahn said...

Thanks Jesse! That’s great advice! I’ve stumbled on one or two after I lost the heart, but it hadn’t occurred to me to do it first. :)
I would like to use it later to improve my French, but I want to really focus on German now. I’ve always wanted to learn it, and I’m afraid if I try to do both I’ll probably get lazy and the French will suffer at the very least. I haven’t gotten far enough into the German to know if there will be tweaking needed. So far, my only question came with “Ich bin gut.” I tried typing “I am well,” even though I knew “gut” was “good.” I lost a heart, but found a good discussion on the topic, where students seemed to agree that this was not how you would say “I am well” but it could be “I am good” in a boastful way.
I’m impressed that the French program discusses reindeer. ;) I’m JulieBwriter there if you are still using the program.

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On January 3, 2014 at 7:22 am Micki said...

Life is strange category: the most recent French I’ve learned is le petit renne au nez rouge (and I got someone to pronounce it for me on Forvo (-:). Reindeer are simply in the air!

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On January 1, 2014 at 1:02 pm Sylvia Ketrie said...

I’m going to make more time for myself to write, and stop prioritizing anything but the people I love over it. Which means my poor husband will be doing the dishes more often, but he loves me so it will work out.

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On January 1, 2014 at 1:57 pm dnelle said...

I will let myself do the things I enjoy, the creative things, without guilt. I have fibromyalgia/ Sjogren’ s Syndrome, and it sucks the big one. As a result, I have a lot of down days where I can’t do much. So the days I feel better are always guilt-filled days filled with chores that have piled up while I was sick. Well, screw that. Guess what? I have a dirty house. I HAVE A DIRTY HOUSE AND I DON’T CARE. I want to do the things that enrich my spirit- my drawing, writing, sculpting- without feeling like I’m wasting time I should be spending doing “worthwhile” tasks. Easier said than done, but I am going to remind myself that being happy IS worthwhile, and worth a lot more than having a dust-free mantel. So, Screw the guilt. Whatever your guilt is, say it with me- SCREW THE GUILT!!!!!!!

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On January 1, 2014 at 4:02 pm Deborah Blake said...

You go, girl!

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On January 1, 2014 at 6:57 pm Christine Ashworth said...

Oh hon, I’m so there with you on the dirty house. It’s never company ready – only close-friends ready, those who don’t mind the dust bunnies and the clutter. And over the years I’ve become totally okay with that! Sending you hugs!

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On January 2, 2014 at 8:32 am Lola said...

I woke up to the sound of our little dog vomiting on the bedsheets. There’s always something that needs cleaning around here. And I don’t have dust bunnies, I have dust Nutria.

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On January 1, 2014 at 2:05 pm Bonnie C said...

Does “watch moar Netflix” count? LOL I’m not sure that is *actually* possible, all things considered. Ok, Reality: learn to use my SLR and figure out Lightroom. Less time pinning on Pinterest (gasp!) and more time trying out the stuff I pinned. Touch my children gently as much – MORE THAN – they get Gibbs’d. :| Focus my to-do list, get what “needs” to be done DONE and let the rest go. Simply be more excellent to myself and to others. Happy NewYear!

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On January 3, 2014 at 3:02 pm G and T said...

Have patience with Lightroom — not as intuitive as one might wish (for me, anyway) — but once you get it, it’s a delightful and helpful tool!

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On January 1, 2014 at 2:17 pm katyL said...

Love this idea! Focus on good works for me:)

Like you, I’ve had challenges over the past few years–big ones. But I always take stock of what I accomplished, which is a lot, and let that be my compass. Can never go wrong with good as a guiding force.

I don’t do resolutions but I do do happy. Which means I like to do as much of what makes me happy as possible. So this year I’ll still work at my business and continue to write. Plus, I’ve recently started yoga in addition to my pilates & elliptical. I’ve tried yoga before and not gotten far, but this time something has clicked and it feels like such a good fit I wonder how I got along without it. I’m very beginner & taking it slow, but that’s okay. Over the last few years I’ve made peace with slow.

That’s one of the gifts of big challenges–perspective. Life does not have to be lived at top speed to be enjoyed. In fact, there’s a lot more opportunity to take in the scenery when I’m not whizzing by it on my way to somewhere else. The scenery IS the somewhere I need to be. Somewhere else will get its chance when the time is right. For now, right where I am works for me.

Here’s wishing all your good parts expand and leave little space for the worries. The worries had their turn:)

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On January 1, 2014 at 2:59 pm robena grant said...

My focus is to be more open, less ego driven, more engaged in the things that please and nurture my soul.
With the new moon tonight, and being at the first of the month in a brand spanking New Year, we can draw a lot of good positive energy. Meditate. Light a candle. Or at least clear your thoughts from all of the must do items that clog our everday living and happiness. Go out into nature and think about what you desire. Walk barefoot on grass (if you have any) sit under a tree, roll up a ball of snow and have a snowball fight, or walk the dog. Think of the tree and its roots and plant your own thoughts in mother earth. Breathe deeply and release all of the tensions of the past, embrace the new, let it all go, and with spring new and wonderful things will come to you.

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On January 1, 2014 at 3:34 pm Pamela Toler said...

Read, write, think, knit, dance like a crazy person, and spend lots of time with My Own True Love.

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On January 1, 2014 at 3:34 pm Maine Betty said...

Getting a job is my goal. I must believe that that is going to happen, but the background anxiety and shame are driving me nuts
My effort towards happiness will be to care for my self, as in my eternal self, and get centered again. I will create a half-hour morning routine: 20 sun salutations, 10 minutes of vocalizing, 10 minutes of prayer and meditation. That could set my priorities for the day. Every time I do these, I am happier afterwards than I was when I started. I don’t know WHY it’s such a big deal to get to it, but it is.

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On January 2, 2014 at 12:19 am Skye said...

I hear you, Maine Betty. I will get a job soon — I can feel this! I want a job, I need a job, I will have a job. Period. The same goes for you: you will find a great job Very Soon Now. And good for you for engaging in good self care. That’s one of the ways I’m not doing so well.

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On January 1, 2014 at 3:53 pm trudy said...

I was home alone for the week between Christmas and New Years and I did a huge clean out of the kitchen, my bedroom, office and mudroom. I have about 600 books to sort through, many I haven’t read yet. I’m afraid I won’t ever have the time to give them justice, either. But I won’t think about it. I do have a friend and she and her hub do a yearly mission statement, plan out their finances for the year and create a budget, plan their trips etc. They really stick to their plan, too. Frankly, I am in awe and fascinated by this type of organization. I wonder what it’s like to think of my life that way. I may ask her advice on how to get started, especially since I now have my office in fairly good shape. But probably my major important decision is to actually lose some weight and exercise. I think I will feel better which means I will feel more enthusiastic about doing things. I think I’m just going to choose happiness. Happy New Year, Jenny!

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On January 1, 2014 at 4:04 pm Deborah Blake said...

Cats, friends, writing, reading…my word for the year is balance, and I’m really going to work on that. You know, starting tomorrow :-)
Also, chocolate and bacon. Probably not at the same time.
Happy New Year, all!

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On January 2, 2014 at 12:20 am Skye said...

Bacon and chocolate taste really, really good together … for the first bite. Then it all goes downhill. I think it’s really the salt that tastes good with the chocolate.

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On January 1, 2014 at 4:56 pm lee said...

ride more horses
look at the night sky more often
sleep more, earlier, happier, with more pillows
hug people more
create less stress

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On January 1, 2014 at 5:45 pm Louise said...

I’ve always stopped was I was doing when the grand kids popped in to chat about their day or ask me a question. My time with them is precious. It makes them happy, which makes me happy. Watch my dog run like a wild thing while her old pal lays down in the grass watching…and probably laughing, hope so anyway. Watch the eagles fly overhead. Gaze at Milky Way on a clear night. The best thing that happened to me, ‘personally’ in 2013 was that a publisher accepted my work. You have to know my background to understand fully, but to say I felt validated is putting it mildly. I take that joy with me into 2014. Whoo-hoo! Bring it on! 

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On January 1, 2014 at 6:17 pm Sue D Glorious Cherry said...

Read more.
Cross country ski more.
Laugh more.
Write some.

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On January 1, 2014 at 6:20 pm toni said...

My list is relatively simple:

More of what I love (photography, photoshop, sketching). Enjoy the process of the big remodel. Quit giving myself artificial deadlines, because they aren’t realistic and they rush the process… most of our best ideas have come because we took our time during the design phase.

More use of the word “no” when I just cannot do it, without the attendant guilt.

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On January 1, 2014 at 6:53 pm Christine Ashworth said...

Yay for the Good Parts year! As for me, I’m focusing my writing on what I’m PASSIONATE about, rather than chasing trends or writing what editors tell me to write (without a contract). I can’t go through another year like last year. Outside of that, I’m focusing on moving the body more and drinking less. We’ll see! Cheers hon!

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On January 1, 2014 at 7:18 pm Lea said...

Love the Good Parts year!
I want to do more crafts – actually do them, instead of just buying the supplies or looking at them on Pinterest. Find a volunteer project that interests me and I will enjoy doing.

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On January 1, 2014 at 8:18 pm Muria said...

I don’t know if anyone else has checked, but pbs.org has the Study in Pink for this week’s Sherlock Sunday. I would have put it in the other thread, but I thought more people would see the more recent post.

I’m resolving to get rid of all (ok, some) of the junk that clutters up my life that I don’t need (hoping that the result is a cleaner-looking house with fewer all-week cleaning sessions before someone comes over). To that end, I’m going to go to bed earlier so I can get up earlier. That way I can get the work done before homeschooling, when I still have energy, instead of after homeschooling, when I’m hitting my mid-afternoon urge to nap. Hopefully that will mean more afternoons at the park and the rec center pool instead of the kids sitting on the computers while I ignore the stuff that doesn’t absolutely need to be done.

I also have a bunch of exercises that I want to try to do several times a day to keep me from turning chair-shaped (posture/flexibility stuff). In theory, they’re best done 3 times a day. I’m thinking with meal times would make it easy to fit in and remember. I hope. :)

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On January 1, 2014 at 9:12 pm Elisabeth Crisp said...

“guilt (if it happened more than a week ago, I’m letting it go)” Great advice. I hold on to stuff that drowns me.
I have just three resolutions. 1. Write with power and emotion. 2. Take good care of myself. 3. Make home the place my family wants to be.

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On January 1, 2014 at 9:46 pm Olga Godim said...

Happy New Year, Jenny, and my best wishes.
I’m going to finish the novel I started … oh, I think it was 2 years ago. Then I’m going to revise it.
And I’m going to write 2 short stories for my growing collection and self-publish it.
And I’m going to find fun in marketing myself and selling my books. It should be fun, right?

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On January 1, 2014 at 11:44 pm Thea said...

Ooh, the Good Parts Version, sign me up. Now.
I vow, resolve, and will to do more of what I did last year, the Good Parts.
Happiest of New Years, Arghers.

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On January 2, 2014 at 12:28 am Skye said...

I’m in! The past 3 1/2 years have been difficult and I’ve become sedentary, unimaginative, dull, and kind of hunched over. No more!

My word for the year is Happiness, which includes writing more, drawing and painting more, walking more, doing some other body movement and strengthening more, spending time with friends and my niece and my nephew more, making more, and learning more. I will find work. I will find my own place to live and make it cute and cottagey. This is going to be an excellent year!

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On January 2, 2014 at 12:38 am Jennifer said...

I am going to design two terrible/terribly funny Christmas sweaters for next year. I am going to take a knitting class that helps you fix your knitting problems so I can figure out fair isle and how not to suck at it.

I am going to go to a con I used to go to with all my friends, until the friend group broke up and I no longer had anyone to go with or stay with. Now I have my own damn car and credit card and can pay for my own damn room and go alone if I have to!

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On January 2, 2014 at 11:33 am Bethany said...

What’s the con? Maybe there are Cherries who would go :)

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On January 4, 2014 at 9:07 pm Abigail Stockinger said...

Ahhh yes I have heard there are knitting classes that teach you ALL the mistakes and how to fix, adjust and master the little snarly buggers. A dear friend told me of this class in the SF bay area and said it was one of the best she has ever taken! Happy New Years knitting!

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On January 2, 2014 at 2:26 am Mary (Egads) said...

I’m going to set a pleasure goal. I’m going to read a book a week; more is fine, but at least one book. When the weather is nice, I shall sit outside and read, hearing the wind and the birds, and drink my favorite tea.

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On January 2, 2014 at 6:40 am Jilly Wood said...

I’m going to finish my story, get it revised, critiqued, revised again, polished till it sparkles. I’m going to push myself and use all the resources at my disposal (especially the Eight Ladies Writing and the final McD workshop) to make it as good as I can. I’ll celebrate when I’m done, but I’m going to enjoy every moment along the way, even the difficult ones. I have a deadline in mind, but it’s self-imposed and if I have to flex it, I will.

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On January 2, 2014 at 11:17 am Lola said...

I’ve decided to have a Try New Thing day this year. Maybe once a week. I’m such a change-phobe, it’s hard for me to let go of the old (comfort zone) and try new things. Today I changed my purse. Go Me! Next week I might try getting out of my sneakers and into some nice shoes. Change is hard!

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On January 2, 2014 at 11:35 am Bethany said...

I’m going to get back to personal blogging and also actually try pins instead of just pinning them and thinking about how I’d never get nearly as good results. If I never try, I’ll never know if I could do an awesome job — plus maybe it’ll help me with my creativity and give me something to focus on besides work problems. They’ll be positive, even if I fail, I’ll look at it as a learning experience.

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On January 2, 2014 at 1:38 pm Sharon S. said...

I like the Happiness Goal. I’m going to work on that. I’m going to stop buying books by an author I’ve loved for 20 years. Her books have gone stale and I can barely make it past the first 20 pages, yet I keep buying the books. I’ve started reading Anne Stuart…at first I was afraid because the write ups said they were dark…but once I tried one, I can’t get enough. I love the characters. I’ve already “listened” to all of Jennie’s and a few of Lani’s. So I’m very proud of myself for moving on to new experiences. I plan to work that into the rest of my life too. I’m not going to say “no” so much this year and to hell with the diet. I’m just going to eat well and forget the rest. I want to be happy this year. Last year sucked. This year WILL be better.

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On January 2, 2014 at 3:53 pm Sharon S. said...

My best friend just call me and we talked for a little while. During the conversation she told me I was too negative and that I needed to stop saying No to everything without thinking. Only a best friend can say that to you and not piss you off. I explained what I’d just written here and that she was correct and that I was going to make changes. She’s the sister I never had and I’m going to listen to her. I won’t go as far as “Yes, Man” but I do intend to make some changes.

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On January 2, 2014 at 1:59 pm Mina Lobo said...

I was thinking I’d focus on the stuff I love too, so as to rouse the endorphins necessary to combat the stuff I hate, which inevitably seeks to destroy me. (She said with no melodrama whatsoever.) On Jan. 1, I wrote in my planner, “Read more/Write more/Make music.” So far, so good! :-) HNY, all y’all.

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On January 2, 2014 at 4:39 pm Diane said...

Exercise first thing in the morning, followed by just 15 minutes of meditation.

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On January 3, 2014 at 12:03 am Nan said...

Write for an hour at least five days a week–no word count sword, just write for an hour. Writing makes me happy and my word for 2014 is JOYFUL! I want the joy!

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On January 3, 2014 at 7:29 am Micki said...

Fun, huh? More fruit smoothies! If I can organize more fruit smoothies in my life, everything else will go more smoothly. That can be my writing reward! And I will be healthier, and a better shopper, and just a more excellent person all-around if I can pull this off.

(-: All my worrying and planning, and it all comes down to more fruit smoothies. I will not overthink this.

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On January 3, 2014 at 1:37 pm CateM said...

This year is going to have to be a year of courage. I graduate in the spring, which will be lovely, but it means that for the first time ever I have no clue where I’ll be in a year. I don’t know what city, I don’t know what job, I don’t know which friends, or if it’ll be new friends. And there isn’t any way around it for what I want, I’ll just have to put myself out there and get rejected a lot in the process. So, courage. To be decisive, and take risks, and be honest with myself and others about what I want, and what I’m willing to do to get it. Gah.

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On January 4, 2014 at 1:28 am Beth Matthews said...

Going to RT convention in New Orleans with my mom. (Any other Argh people going?)

Writing my next werewolf knight book which I will self-publish because *I* love it. Write what makes me happy in general actually.

More swing-dancing.

More time with my sister.

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On January 4, 2014 at 2:12 pm Carol said...

More music, more crochet, more travel. Maybe learn to knit (better, I already know the basics, but I’d like to do something more fun than a scarf).

Less clutter. I had an epiphany over the holidays, that my clutter is making me anxious, and I don’t want to be anxious, so really, it’s more serenity. And I can take tiny bites to get there, celebrating along the way.

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On January 4, 2014 at 9:20 pm Abigail Stockinger said...

Yay for the Year of the Horse
Everyone above have echoed some of my own resolutions, I still have a few up my sleeve.

Celebrate the positive people and times in my life day by day. Keep positive and let go of anger (Anger is so easy to fall into). While also learning to keep boundaries and how to say no without feeling guilty especially in dealing with pushy family. Be more active and supportive in my community. Put the last two years of sketches onto canvas that have been waiting patiently to tell a story that will be ready for a group art show come Fall. And more plants and pathways in my garden (I think everyone needs a little secret garden) Play with all my four legged companions specifically with my horses and hopefully inspire more people along the way.

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On January 5, 2014 at 10:04 pm oneoftheotherjennifers said...

I’m only going to do the things I want to do. That’s a lot of things, it’s just thinking about them differently. I want to do the laundry, because I like the clothes clean. I want to shovel the driveway, because I like it cleared. I want to bake things for the people at the nursing home, because their smiles bring me great joy.

I’m not going to do the things I don’t want to do. I won’t send gifts to relatives who complain bitterly about whatever it is when they receive it, I won’t cook dinners for my family when they usually turn up their noses at it and order take out and I end up throwing most of the home cooking away, and I won’t clear the snow off my husband’s car while he plays video games.

It’s only a year. Let’s see where this takes me.

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On January 6, 2014 at 4:38 am colognegrrl said...

After doing hardly any writing for a year (there was a lot of stress at my volunteer activities and I thought I had to organize that first), my first priority is to write again on a regular basis. More important even because it’s part of my income and not just a time-consuming hobby. There are three different publishers waiting for new input – what a giant motivation!
Then, I want to do more creative stuff. I was able to clean and reorganize my workroom between the holidays while I watched two seasons of Project Runway (my daughter really knows how to make gifts that I like!), so I can’t wait to start sewing and crafting.
I want to get rid of stuff at least once a week. I know I’m a hoarder but I want to do it step by step before the kids have finished college and my husband retires – that’s when we’ll buy a smaller house.
Having lost 5 kilos last year in very small steps, I must say I feel so much better – and it wasn’t that hard. So I’ll go for 3 more this year. We’ll see how that goes, I won’t put myself under much stress for it. But just exercising every workday morning, eating more healthy stuff and trying to walk more instead of taking the car wasn’t as difficult as I imagined it to be.
That’s all folks. It sounds like enough plans. The rest will come naturally, I suppose.

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