Comments on: The Tao of Bob http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/ More than you ever wanted to hear from Bestselling Author Jenny Crusie. Fri, 10 Feb 2012 07:42:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: Sylvia http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-145503 Sylvia Sun, 28 Feb 2010 15:43:57 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-145503 Die Sammlung ? Die Sammlung ?

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]]> By: Eleanor http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-144342 Eleanor Sat, 13 Feb 2010 20:43:41 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-144342 Does anyone else see a connection between "Hey, it worked once," and Bob the dog in What the Lady Wants? He got steak off the counter once, and so he keeps banging his head . . . Just made me excited to see the connection. Someone may have already mentioned this, but I'm at work while typing this so no time to read all the comments. Sorry if I'm repeating! Does anyone else see a connection between “Hey, it worked once,” and Bob the dog in What the Lady Wants? He got steak off the counter once, and so he keeps banging his head . . . Just made me excited to see the connection.
Someone may have already mentioned this, but I’m at work while typing this so no time to read all the comments. Sorry if I’m repeating!

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]]> By: BunnyQueen http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143819 BunnyQueen Sat, 06 Feb 2010 00:33:03 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143819 I volunteer with a group that helps find homes for companion rabbits and I can totally relate to the "it worked once" thing. The number of times I have had to answer "why does my rabbit bite" with "because you occasionally give him what he wants after he bites you" is astonishing. Let's see... I bite you; you give me a treat. It sounds good to me so let's try it again. :) I volunteer with a group that helps find homes for companion rabbits and I can totally relate to the “it worked once” thing. The number of times I have had to answer “why does my rabbit bite” with “because you occasionally give him what he wants after he bites you” is astonishing. Let’s see… I bite you; you give me a treat. It sounds good to me so let’s try it again. :)

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]]> By: Joanna http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143783 Joanna Fri, 05 Feb 2010 17:52:40 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143783 Sam Vimes is my soul mate. Bob is my guru. Don't tell my husband, and I won't tell yours! Sam Vimes is my soul mate. Bob is my guru. Don’t tell my husband, and I won’t tell yours!

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]]> By: Hellie http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143517 Hellie Wed, 03 Feb 2010 15:54:34 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143517 I knew the Therapist theory (being I went to therapy for 2 years; and I always figured she knew what was wrong with me but would never just say)--actually once she did say. She said, "You need new friends who aren't as neurotic. And friends who are actually friends." And I immediately rejected the idea of dumping my friends. I did agree to expand my circle of friends though. It worked too. *LOL* So I imagine she just didn't want to tell me what was really wrong with me, esp since I went all out rejecting the friends thing. And I *so* know the fallacy of previous success theory. From personal experience AND from friends who complain about ex-boyfriends who keep hitting on them. I lump it with the "Men and women can't be just friends because sex gets in the way", which I also think is true. My friend thinks she can be friends with her ex-boyfriend and is always disturbed when he wants to be friends with benefits. Duh. Rat got the pellet at one time; he's going to keep tapping the machine in hopes it dispenses another pellet. Helllooooo. I knew the Therapist theory (being I went to therapy for 2 years; and I always figured she knew what was wrong with me but would never just say)–actually once she did say. She said, “You need new friends who aren’t as neurotic. And friends who are actually friends.” And I immediately rejected the idea of dumping my friends. I did agree to expand my circle of friends though. It worked too. *LOL* So I imagine she just didn’t want to tell me what was really wrong with me, esp since I went all out rejecting the friends thing.

And I *so* know the fallacy of previous success theory. From personal experience AND from friends who complain about ex-boyfriends who keep hitting on them. I lump it with the “Men and women can’t be just friends because sex gets in the way”, which I also think is true. My friend thinks she can be friends with her ex-boyfriend and is always disturbed when he wants to be friends with benefits. Duh. Rat got the pellet at one time; he’s going to keep tapping the machine in hopes it dispenses another pellet. Helllooooo.

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]]> By: colognegrrl http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143393 colognegrrl Tue, 02 Feb 2010 19:24:05 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143393 Let's hope it is. Because similar to what Jenny mentioned in a comment for the next post, I still owe my publisher part of the advance for the former books. Good thing my contract says I don't have to pay it back. But this is a new attempt towards fame. Let’s hope it is. Because similar to what Jenny mentioned in a comment for the next post, I still owe my publisher part of the advance for the former books. Good thing my contract says I don’t have to pay it back.

But this is a new attempt towards fame.

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]]> By: r. http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143371 r. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:15:51 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143371 That sounds good - the house part wasn't too hard, but nobody could figure out how to work in the love interest. Whatever the title, I'm sure it will be a hit. That sounds good – the house part wasn’t too hard, but nobody could figure out how to work in the love interest. Whatever the title, I’m sure it will be a hit.

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]]> By: colognegrrl http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143348 colognegrrl Tue, 02 Feb 2010 13:19:24 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143348 Thanks anyway for your input! Sounds good, brainstorming together. Working as a freelance PR copywriter for a living, I only ever brainstorm by myself. And please tell Shorn if he ever finds somebody interested in the statue thing, "Busted" might be a good title too. By the way: the new title will probably be something in the way of "Decluttered a house - found love in the process" - of course it sounds a little different in German. Thanks anyway for your input! Sounds good, brainstorming together. Working as a freelance PR copywriter for a living, I only ever brainstorm by myself. And please tell Shorn if he ever finds somebody interested in the statue thing, “Busted” might be a good title too.

By the way: the new title will probably be something in the way of “Decluttered a house – found love in the process” – of course it sounds a little different in German.

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]]> By: El http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143332 El Tue, 02 Feb 2010 09:09:04 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143332 Just went and watched the videos, and only noticed the one spoiler. Just went and watched the videos, and only noticed the one spoiler.

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]]> By: Judy Long http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143321 Judy Long Tue, 02 Feb 2010 06:41:07 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143321 BCB I found it. I watched all 3 segments cause spoilers for books don't really bother me (movie spoilers do for some reason). I'm relatively new to the Crusie world so I haven't seen or heard Jenny talk before. Thoroughly enjoyed that. Having watched this and seen an interview with John Updike when he praises his publisher / editor, I feel sad. I think the world is changing and those nourishing relationships are fading away. I'm glad that the people who experienced them have produced bodies of work that can sustain readers like me for years to come. BCB I found it. I watched all 3 segments cause spoilers for books don’t really bother me (movie spoilers do for some reason). I’m relatively new to the Crusie world so I haven’t seen or heard Jenny talk before. Thoroughly enjoyed that.
Having watched this and seen an interview with John Updike when he praises his publisher / editor, I feel sad. I think the world is changing and those nourishing relationships are fading away.
I’m glad that the people who experienced them have produced bodies of work that can sustain readers like me for years to come.

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]]> By: Micki http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143317 Micki Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:13:35 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143317 I have to think, if you know anyway, and are ready to work on it, why do you need to go to the therapist? My theory is that you may know anyway (but I dunno, sometimes I'm awfully clueless), but you need a nudge to move toward the solution. But an outright shove ("you've got father issues, you need to forgive him and move on") is just opening up a can of worms, and doesn't prepare you to do the work to deal with whatever crawls out. I think a good therapist might recognize the problem, then move the client to a place where s/he can effectively deal with the problem -- and by the time you are prepared to deal with the problem, you probably have a pretty good idea about what the problem is. (-: But then again, I don't know much at all about therapy. I just generate theories about how the world *should* work (-:. I have to think, if you know anyway, and are ready to work on it, why do you need to go to the therapist? My theory is that you may know anyway (but I dunno, sometimes I’m awfully clueless), but you need a nudge to move toward the solution. But an outright shove (“you’ve got father issues, you need to forgive him and move on”) is just opening up a can of worms, and doesn’t prepare you to do the work to deal with whatever crawls out. I think a good therapist might recognize the problem, then move the client to a place where s/he can effectively deal with the problem — and by the time you are prepared to deal with the problem, you probably have a pretty good idea about what the problem is.

(-: But then again, I don’t know much at all about therapy. I just generate theories about how the world *should* work (-:.

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]]> By: Micki http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143315 Micki Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:07:59 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143315 (-: If the therapist was just in it to make money, s/he could string you out for years/truly mess up your crap so you never got out. Whereas, I've experienced the "let them find it out for themselves" thing. "Micki, you don't take criticism well." "Shut up!! What do you know, anyway? (push the most obvious button I can)." Then I storm out, and think about it for several days, and maybe admit to this glaring deficit. It's probably easier on both parties to nudge the client to the obvious. Probably takes the same amount of time, either way . . . . (-: If the therapist was just in it to make money, s/he could string you out for years/truly mess up your crap so you never got out. Whereas, I’ve experienced the “let them find it out for themselves” thing. “Micki, you don’t take criticism well.” “Shut up!! What do you know, anyway? (push the most obvious button I can).” Then I storm out, and think about it for several days, and maybe admit to this glaring deficit. It’s probably easier on both parties to nudge the client to the obvious. Probably takes the same amount of time, either way . . . .

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]]> By: Micki http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143314 Micki Tue, 02 Feb 2010 05:00:48 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143314 Hooray! I love a kind and gracious law of nature! (-: All these are great . . . . Hooray! I love a kind and gracious law of nature! (-: All these are great . . . .

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]]> By: El http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143300 El Tue, 02 Feb 2010 03:05:19 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143300 Years ago, I worked in an association where the governmental affairs head, an attractive woman, had tons of photos of herself with various governmental types. Including a photo with Bob Packwood, with a handwritten thing that said something like "I love your spark." Except that at first glance, the r in spark looked like an n..... Years ago, I worked in an association where the governmental affairs head, an attractive woman, had tons of photos of herself with various governmental types.

Including a photo with Bob Packwood, with a handwritten thing that said something like “I love your spark.”

Except that at first glance, the r in spark looked like an n…..

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]]> By: r. http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143298 r. Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:55:53 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143298 We couldn't begin to top the sponge bag line - that was really funny. We brainstorm for a living - we're working on leisure products now. (Marly calls them "man toys".) A change of pace, like the titles, seems to be good for us. Thanks for letting us in on the process. We couldn’t begin to top the sponge bag line – that was really funny. We brainstorm for a living – we’re working on leisure products now. (Marly calls them “man toys”.) A change of pace, like the titles, seems to be good for us. Thanks for letting us in on the process.

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]]> By: BCB http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143288 BCB Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:01:39 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143288 It's possible you already mentioned it in a blog post and I missed it -- it was something I had certainly inferred anyway (about the H/H relationship). And you said it in such an offhand manner, like the book had been out forever (or, in your case, maybe three weeks), at which point it could be expected everyone had already read it and knew this. Not a big deal. ;) It’s possible you already mentioned it in a blog post and I missed it — it was something I had certainly inferred anyway (about the H/H relationship). And you said it in such an offhand manner, like the book had been out forever (or, in your case, maybe three weeks), at which point it could be expected everyone had already read it and knew this. Not a big deal. ;)

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]]> By: Deb http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143279 Deb Tue, 02 Feb 2010 01:19:20 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143279 I remember the Tao of the Hawaiian shirt and the Tao of the restaurant in Korea Bob mentioned way back when. But the kicker has to be "We're doomed". This post brought a good memory for me. I met both of you at the signing for "Don't Look Down", Milwaukee style. A very lovely evening. Thanks for that. I remember the Tao of the Hawaiian shirt and the Tao of the restaurant in Korea Bob mentioned way back when.

But the kicker has to be “We’re doomed”.

This post brought a good memory for me. I met both of you at the signing for “Don’t Look Down”, Milwaukee style. A very lovely evening. Thanks for that.

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]]> By: marly http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143268 marly Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:29:46 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143268 Me, too! Very happy to hear your good news - I hope you enjoy every day. Me, too! Very happy to hear your good news – I hope you enjoy every day.

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]]> By: Jennifer http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143266 Jennifer Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:20:30 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143266 Also, if that's the only giveaway, it's not huge, since that relationship is strongly implied as early as the first chapter (up on Bob's site). Also, if that’s the only giveaway, it’s not huge, since that relationship is strongly implied as early as the first chapter (up on Bob’s site).

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]]> By: Jennifer http://www.arghink.com/2010/01/30/the-tao-of-bob/#comment-143265 Jennifer Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:17:02 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/?p=2265#comment-143265 Fun interview. I stopped at the point where the Wild Ride spoilers start. The bit I saw was no more that what you had already mentioned here about the relationship between the main male and female characters. Don't know if there was any more revealed after that. If not, someone please let me know, and I'll watch the rest. :-) Fun interview. I stopped at the point where the Wild Ride spoilers start. The bit I saw was no more that what you had already mentioned here about the relationship between the main male and female characters. Don’t know if there was any more revealed after that. If not, someone please let me know, and I’ll watch the rest. :-)

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