Comments on: Pink Goes Home http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/ More than you ever wanted to hear from Bestselling Author Jenny Crusie. Sun, 01 Aug 2010 00:08:50 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: sherry thomas http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15908 sherry thomas Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:28:13 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15908 You made me cry and I don't even have--or ever plan to have--pets. You made me cry and I don’t even have–or ever plan to have–pets.

]]> By: sheagal http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15905 sheagal Mon, 10 Dec 2007 21:04:00 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15905 It certainly sounds like you made the right decision for all involved. Still, it must have been difficult. Good for you for seeing past this woman's erratic behavior to the choice that would be best for everyone. Sometimes it's easier just to lock your wheels and refuse to turn. It takes wisdom and, in this case, compassion to help fix a bad situation. It certainly sounds like you made the right decision for all involved. Still, it must have been difficult. Good for you for seeing past this woman’s erratic behavior to the choice that would be best for everyone. Sometimes it’s easier just to lock your wheels and refuse to turn. It takes wisdom and, in this case, compassion to help fix a bad situation.

]]> By: Jeanna http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15894 Jeanna Mon, 10 Dec 2007 18:25:41 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15894 Here's something to think about: If the woman is dying, I can see her giving up the dogs. The other part of it is that these kids are also losing their mother, and I can see how they'd be traumatized by losing their dog, too. Hopefully, they'll step up and take good care of Pink, and she'll take care of them in return. My dog, Beau (who I found on petfinder.com, btw) literally saved me when my mom died. Here’s something to think about: If the woman is dying, I can see her giving up the dogs. The other part of it is that these kids are also losing their mother, and I can see how they’d be traumatized by losing their dog, too. Hopefully, they’ll step up and take good care of Pink, and she’ll take care of them in return. My dog, Beau (who I found on petfinder.com, btw) literally saved me when my mom died.

]]> By: Mary Stella http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15887 Mary Stella Mon, 10 Dec 2007 16:15:40 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15887 Doing the right thing for Pink took great strength and fairness, Jenny. High fives and hugs to you for knowing the dogs so well that you so beautifully assessed their behavior before and after Pink's return home. Doing the right thing for Pink took great strength and fairness, Jenny. High fives and hugs to you for knowing the dogs so well that you so beautifully assessed their behavior before and after Pink’s return home.

]]> By: Ingrid http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15871 Ingrid Mon, 10 Dec 2007 09:50:17 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15871 Sorry Jenny, I did not mean to imply that you did wrong to give Pink up. After all, you only took her because the Dachshund people didn't want to separate her from Veronica. No, I was thinking about those children. It seems wrong to me to force a woman who has already got rid of the dog once, to get her back. And if you're not there to look after the dog yourself, well... Sorry Jenny, I did not mean to imply that you did wrong to give Pink up. After all, you only took her because the Dachshund people didn’t want to separate her from Veronica.
No, I was thinking about those children. It seems wrong to me to force a woman who has already got rid of the dog once, to get her back. And if you’re not there to look after the dog yourself, well…

]]> By: Eileen http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15859 Eileen Mon, 10 Dec 2007 03:11:27 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15859 ah Pink. We hardly knew ya. Bark free and happy Pink. ah Pink. We hardly knew ya. Bark free and happy Pink.

]]> By: Jenny http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15857 Jenny Mon, 10 Dec 2007 03:04:27 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15857 Veronica and Pink were both in excellent health when I got them, so she takes very good care of her dogs, which is all I care about. And Pink is evidently ecstatic to be home again. Veronica, meanwhile, plays with Wolfie and Milton and seems happier now that Pink is gone, which Dachshund Rescue tells me is probably because Pink was an alpha female and repressed our poor baby. So Pink is happy and Veronica is happy and pretty much everything is good. Really. Veronica and Pink were both in excellent health when I got them, so she takes very good care of her dogs, which is all I care about. And Pink is evidently ecstatic to be home again.

Veronica, meanwhile, plays with Wolfie and Milton and seems happier now that Pink is gone, which Dachshund Rescue tells me is probably because Pink was an alpha female and repressed our poor baby. So Pink is happy and Veronica is happy and pretty much everything is good.

Really.

]]> By: Ingrid http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15849 Ingrid Mon, 10 Dec 2007 01:21:21 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15849 I just found this post, it had already been followed by Annie when I got here this morning. In your November 30th post you said that Veronica and Pink belonged to a woman who was dying. So has she had a miraculous recovery? Or was that just an excuse she gave to the Dachshund people? I find myself in total agreement with Agtigress, though I keep trying to think of excuses for the woman. Some psychiatric disorder maybe? Manic depressives do weird things sometimes, and can't really help doing them. I can understand the children wanting their dog back, but is it wise to leave a beloved dog in the care of a woman who has already got rid of her once? Poor Tinkerbell. I just found this post, it had already been followed by Annie when I got here this morning.
In your November 30th post you said that Veronica and Pink belonged to a woman who was dying. So has she had a miraculous recovery? Or was that just an excuse she gave to the Dachshund people?
I find myself in total agreement with Agtigress, though I keep trying to think of excuses for the woman. Some psychiatric disorder maybe? Manic depressives do weird things sometimes, and can’t really help doing them.
I can understand the children wanting their dog back, but is it wise to leave a beloved dog in the care of a woman who has already got rid of her once? Poor Tinkerbell.

]]> By: AgTigress http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15838 AgTigress Sun, 09 Dec 2007 21:45:01 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15838 It's good that the Dachshund Rescue people are so conscientious, and will keep an eye on things. I can see what you mean about Pink's attitude - even in the pictures you posted, she always seemed to be preoccupied and alert, whereas Veronica and Milton have clearly wedged themselves firmly into the woodwork. Or rather, into the upholstery (and the laptop). It really annoys me, though, to think of someone going as far as to give an animal up for re-homing, which is a <i>huge</i> step to take, and then going back on it. It is playing with people's, and animals', emotions in a way that I find wholly unacceptable. It’s good that the Dachshund Rescue people are so conscientious, and will keep an eye on things. I can see what you mean about Pink’s attitude – even in the pictures you posted, she always seemed to be preoccupied and alert, whereas Veronica and Milton have clearly wedged themselves firmly into the woodwork. Or rather, into the upholstery (and the laptop).
It really annoys me, though, to think of someone going as far as to give an animal up for re-homing, which is a huge step to take, and then going back on it. It is playing with people’s, and animals’, emotions in a way that I find wholly unacceptable.

]]> By: Jenny http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15827 Jenny Sun, 09 Dec 2007 18:05:13 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15827 You and Kathleen at Dachshund Rescue would get along fine, Ag. If Pink had relaxed the way Milton and Veronica had after the first week, I'd have said no. But she was so clearly waiting for her people to come back that I was torn. And since she's been gone, everybody here has relaxed completely. They've really bonded as a pack now, and it happened the day Pink left. So I think she really was unhappy and anxious. I'm just hoping the kids in the family keep coming home to pay attention to her because she obviously really missed them. And if the woman does give Pink up again, that she gives her up to Kathleen, who will make sure everything goes well. Kathleen is a Dachshund Goddess. You and Kathleen at Dachshund Rescue would get along fine, Ag.

If Pink had relaxed the way Milton and Veronica had after the first week, I’d have said no. But she was so clearly waiting for her people to come back that I was torn. And since she’s been gone, everybody here has relaxed completely. They’ve really bonded as a pack now, and it happened the day Pink left. So I think she really was unhappy and anxious. I’m just hoping the kids in the family keep coming home to pay attention to her because she obviously really missed them. And if the woman does give Pink up again, that she gives her up to Kathleen, who will make sure everything goes well. Kathleen is a Dachshund Goddess.

]]> By: AgTigress http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15810 AgTigress Sun, 09 Dec 2007 12:57:01 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15810 I remain totally baffled by the behaviour of the woman who first gave up Pink and Veronica to a dog rescue organisation, and then demanded one of them back - contacting you, as has been pointed out, under false pretences. Her conduct seems to me wholly irresponsible and irrational. She must have <i>known</i> that her children would be distressed, so why did she take the huge step of handing the dogs over in the first place? And why does she want only one of them back? Dogs and cats are members of the family. A responsible adult does not make the major decision of handing them over to a re-homing organisation without proper thought and consultation with all members of the family: and having done so, the die is cast. Insecurity is no better for animals than it is for people, and consistent, rational behaviour is one of the hallmarks of maturity. Obviously there must be factors that we do not know, but on the face of it, I should say that this person is not a responsible dog-owner in the first place, and I would be prepared to take a bet that poor Pink will find herself back in limbo in the not-too-distant future - maybe the next time there is a family quarrel? The whole story reeks of someone who has psychological problems, and who is using the dog(s) as bargaining counters. Not good. I remain totally baffled by the behaviour of the woman who first gave up Pink and Veronica to a dog rescue organisation, and then demanded one of them back – contacting you, as has been pointed out, under false pretences. Her conduct seems to me wholly irresponsible and irrational. She must have known that her children would be distressed, so why did she take the huge step of handing the dogs over in the first place? And why does she want only one of them back?
Dogs and cats are members of the family. A responsible adult does not make the major decision of handing them over to a re-homing organisation without proper thought and consultation with all members of the family: and having done so, the die is cast. Insecurity is no better for animals than it is for people, and consistent, rational behaviour is one of the hallmarks of maturity.
Obviously there must be factors that we do not know, but on the face of it, I should say that this person is not a responsible dog-owner in the first place, and I would be prepared to take a bet that poor Pink will find herself back in limbo in the not-too-distant future – maybe the next time there is a family quarrel? The whole story reeks of someone who has psychological problems, and who is using the dog(s) as bargaining counters. Not good.

]]> By: Vaishali http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15794 Vaishali Sun, 09 Dec 2007 08:31:58 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15794 Aww. You did good (though it's sad). I hope Pink and her family are happy. Aww. You did good (though it’s sad). I hope Pink and her family are happy.

]]> By: AndreaS http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15793 AndreaS Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:51:08 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15793 Ouch. Poor baby! It stinks to give up an animal you welcomed into your home and loved. But it sounds like the house dynamic is coping nicely. I hope the woman has agreed to give you Pink updates. And explained the circumstances behind the "adoption". Maybe it was a false alarm? Although I think it's fishy that she didn't contact the rescue first... Ouch. Poor baby!

It stinks to give up an animal you welcomed into your home and loved. But it sounds like the house dynamic is coping nicely.

I hope the woman has agreed to give you Pink updates. And explained the circumstances behind the “adoption”. Maybe it was a false alarm?
Although I think it’s fishy that she didn’t contact the rescue first…

]]> By: Jenny http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15792 Jenny Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:47:11 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15792 The kids are in college here in town and noticed Pink was gone right away, so they're still close to her. And it was the right thing. And let's face it, I have plenty of furpeople as it is. I think she was still looking for them, so that makes me feel good, that she'll see them again. Poor baby. I'm good with it, really. Another week and it would have been really tough, but we were just starting to get to know each other, so I'm glad it happened fast. And now I must go see what Milton is chewing on. With any luck, it is not an electrical cord. The kids are in college here in town and noticed Pink was gone right away, so they’re still close to her. And it was the right thing. And let’s face it, I have plenty of furpeople as it is. I think she was still looking for them, so that makes me feel good, that she’ll see them again. Poor baby.

I’m good with it, really. Another week and it would have been really tough, but we were just starting to get to know each other, so I’m glad it happened fast.

And now I must go see what Milton is chewing on. With any luck, it is not an electrical cord.

]]> By: DownUnderGirl http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15791 DownUnderGirl Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:43:21 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15791 :-( This has to go under the "life sucks" category. Right doesn't necessarily equal easy. Right can be so damn hard. :-(
This has to go under the “life sucks” category. Right doesn’t necessarily equal easy. Right can be so damn hard.

]]> By: ZaZa http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15789 ZaZa Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:20:25 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15789 It seems like in all the pictures, Pink is looking off into the distance. I guess she was thinking about her old home, missing the kids, who are how old BTS? What a crazy way to deal with this, though, like dogs are old clothes or something, to get rid of when you're tired of them. I know you're missing Pink, but it sounds like you made the best decision you could under the circs. Let's just hope Pink is as much happier and more settled back home as Veronica is with you and the gang. (((hugs))) It seems like in all the pictures, Pink is looking off into the distance. I guess she was thinking about her old home, missing the kids, who are how old BTS? What a crazy way to deal with this, though, like dogs are old clothes or something, to get rid of when you’re tired of them.

I know you’re missing Pink, but it sounds like you made the best decision you could under the circs. Let’s just hope Pink is as much happier and more settled back home as Veronica is with you and the gang. (((hugs)))

]]> By: roben http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15788 roben Sun, 09 Dec 2007 06:04:56 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15788 That is so sad for you, but I'm sure it was the right choice for Pink. I hope that woman never does anything like this to her kids again, she's just lucky you were understanding about the feelings of kids and dogs. That is so sad for you, but I’m sure it was the right choice for Pink. I hope that woman never does anything like this to her kids again, she’s just lucky you were understanding about the feelings of kids and dogs.

]]> By: Courtney De http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15785 Courtney De Sun, 09 Dec 2007 04:19:39 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15785 Awwww...poor you, poor Pink, but, really, poor kids! I'm sure that they're very glad to have their dog back, and I'm sure that Pink is glad to be back with them...But, still, that sucks for you. You DID do the right thing. It's just no fun when the right thing hurts. Awwww…poor you, poor Pink, but, really, poor kids! I’m sure that they’re very glad to have their dog back, and I’m sure that Pink is glad to be back with them…But, still, that sucks for you. You DID do the right thing. It’s just no fun when the right thing hurts.

]]> By: Brandy http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15782 Brandy Sun, 09 Dec 2007 03:33:16 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15782 Aw, I am sorry to hear about this. I know that you already loved her, but if she were happier..... Hugs to you. Aw, I am sorry to hear about this. I know that you already loved her, but if she were happier….. Hugs to you.

]]> By: Lynn http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15781 Lynn Sun, 09 Dec 2007 03:30:07 +0000 http://www.arghink.com/2007/12/08/pink-goes-home/#comment-15781 The right thing is rarely the easy thing to do, that's why it takes courage, self-awareness, bravery, and introspection. You did the best thing for all with the information you were given. Bravo. Nicely, done. The right thing is rarely the easy thing to do, that’s why it takes courage, self-awareness, bravery, and introspection. You did the best thing for all with the information you were given.

Bravo.

Nicely, done.

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